It is November 17... We are about 45 days away from celebrating the New Year and what great things we want to occur in this New Year. People often tend to focus on a few things: weight loss, relationship status, employment status, financial goals, protection of family if an emergency occurs and other very important topics. Well, I cannot help with weight loss but I can help with relationship status and issues stemming from relationships. While some people plan to be married or engaged by the end of the year, others focus on how to end their current marriage/relationship and start over or in other cases, how to fix a relationship that is ongoing (relationships between parents concerning their child during and post divorce). For relationships getting ready to walk down the aisle, I always suggest to my clients to try and enter into a prenuptial agreement so that they are protected in the future and both parties know where they stand should a divorce happen and if it does, a prenuptial agreement can make things easier. For people who are in relationships and cannot tolerate it anymore, the question is, Are you sure you want a divorce? Are you ready to start a "new life?" If you have children, "How do you plan to tell them?" If you do go that route, an experienced attorney can help you how to handle some very difficult situations.
The thought of having to do another "holiday cycle" in the next year where either or both spouses fake their happiness in front of their families not to worry anyone, is often too much and leads to the filing of divorce soon after the holiday season. Yes it is true, the holiday season is arguably the most stressful time of year for many people. Dealing with in-laws, parents, drunk cousins, etc is not appealing to many people and while your own relationship is against the ropes, appearing at holidays with your spouse becomes evenmore stressful. The longer you wait, the longer you make excuses, the less likely you will ever file for divorce and seek true change.